Ahoy, marley. Be welcome here (although I'm not exactly the greeting guard of this place anymore)
I would love to point you to the correct address of this blog but.. unfortunately it is no more.
Something terrible happened in my love life at some point (I'm still trying to recover from it, two years later.), and I decided to shut my mouth on this subject from then on.
Therefore, you won't find any writings from me on this subject anymore. On the inside I'm so very pessimistic (realistic?) about the real nature of people that it would be quite depressive to read that (and who'd want to?). Plus, reality stroke me so badly that I don't think I have the legitimity to say anything about it (as opposed to back then).
Anyway, I'm not sure how much sense all that makes to you. But whatever your situation is, good luck anyway. I'm sure you can do much better than I've done